I am a few weeks late but, Happy New Year!
So many people make New Years resolutions. You can’t turn the channel without hearing a weight loss commercial, a gym commercial, financial help… the list goes on. Gyms, yoga, barre, spin and Pilates studios get extremely crowded. I always have found though that in about a month things seem to settle down, become a little less crowded again. There is so much pressure on a new years resolution, one mistake and some just stop all together. I don’t like New Years resolutions, I never did. For one, I was never someone that liked to follow the crowd but I really prefer to check in with myself everyday. I will make lifestyle changes, completely change how I am doing something if it’s not working for me or serving me anymore.
Every evening I think about how my day had been, I am constantly checking in with myself to see how I’m feeling, I check in to see how I’m doing as a mommy and a wife. Depending on what comes back to me I decide to make changes and I make them fairly quickly depending on what it is. Why hold on to something if it’s not serving you anymore. If something is not supporting your true self then it’s best to let go. I know this is easier said then done at times but with checking in daily and deciding to make a change so much beauty will be opened to you. For instance, when I felt my health was kind of stuck I started investigating ways to move things forward. My health wasn’t awful but it just wasn’t moving forward. Through that I found a plant based lifestyle and yoga. I have since made more modifications to what I eat but have loved the yoga. I do lots of research before I begin a new regimen to find what feels best. I followed a lot of yoga studios and found Focus Fitness Main Line, which I love. They are a more spiritual studio, love the instructors and owner Allison Sobel. It has become a happy place for me. I feel myself getting stronger physically and spiritually which helps in all aspects of my life. I now eat gluten free, dairy free, no red meat, some days no animal protein at all and if I do only once a day and I will only buy organic whole foods. If I don’t know what a ingredient is I won’t buy the item. I eat very little sugar and soy too. This lifestyle ( I don’t like the word diet) seems to work best for me. Gluten and Dairy are very difficult to digest for most people and cause inflammation, a lot of animal protein is packed with hormones and chemicals so its best to buy organic food with no added hormones. As I mentioned I always check in to see how I’m doing as a mommy and wife. I feel very strong and stable in my mommy role. of course I’ve made mistakes but I’ve learned to stay very true with who our family is and what Jake needs. I think it’s so easy to listen to all the advice and what “we should” be doing but I do my best to follow my intuition and specifically what works for Jake. You have to do what works for your child, you are their best advocate. I’ve also recently made changes to my wife role. I am trying to make Jamie feel more connected. I feel so blessed that Jamie provides this beautiful life for us, a life which allows me to be with Jacob everyday. I want him to feel more included in our day. These are just a couple of changes I have made throughout the year. If I realize something isn’t working for me I don’t want to wait long to make a change.
I think there is a lot of pressure that goes along with Resolutions. You have waited so long to begin your new journey, maybe waited months to New Years Day and then you cheat on your resolution. So many people are so devastated by this cheating that they stop their resolution all together. When Jamie and I go out to dinner alone ( which isn’t often), there are times I will eat something I don’t usually eat and then the next day I go right back to eating gluten and dairy free. I have found what works for me. I love the way I eat. I don’t find it difficult because I love the way I feel. If it didn’t feel right I may need to check in again to see what I should change. When I started to workout again I hired a personal trainer to come to my home. Couldn’t be easier but I didn’t feel great about it, I didn’t feel excited to workout. I then found yoga and barre and now I am so excited to go! What I am trying to say is that you have to find what is right for you. Maybe you made a resolution for yourself to loose weight but how you are going about it isn’t exactly right. Your intention is right you just need to find the right path to get you there. Once you are on the right path, you will know it. You will feel happy and excited! You won’t want to cheat and if you do you will just go back to eating great the next day! For other people, I have found they waited so long to start until New Years that they don’t even begin, they wait until another date in mind. Why wait? One thing that I have learned through my journey is to focus on today. I always try and make this day full of happiness and love, that is the reason why we are all here. We are supposed to be happy, we are not supposed to be sad and angry. Actually, your emotions are a great indicator of how you are doing. If you find that you are sad, tired, anxious it is a good time for a check in to see whats going on and to see what you can do to create happiness in your life. Many times I find I already know the answer but fear holds me back. Fear of the unknown. I have tried to turn that fear into excitement and also try to feel confident in that everything has always worked out when I follow my intuition. I am also so lucky because I have a amazing team around me to support me on my journey. My team consists of my family, friends, my homeopath: Dr. Falkner, Mary Sheehan, My reiki master: Terri Carine and my doctors who have become like friends and see me as a person and not just another patient. I would suggest creating a great team around you that will share in your happiness, that will cheer you on, that will help guide you in your true direction.
I am also constantly visualizing and manifesting what I want. By creating visualizations I then find myself on the path to make things happen. Different people or opportunities manage to come into my life to support what I am trying to achieve. It’s possible they would have come into my life anyway but I may not have perceived them in the same light. I can honestly say things have always worked out for me and I think this is one of the reasons why. Its a very similar idea to Pintrest. Pinning ideas or things we want it a board. I do that everyday in my head and not only do I just see these things there but I see it happening, I feel the happiness and excitement of my manifestations coming true.
By my daily check ins and visualizations I’m always creating the life around me. If resolutions work for you then that’s what you should do but I’m not the best at waiting. Although, not everything happens overnight and there is patience involved but if you know your not feeling great why wait to make a change.